Tuesday 6 August 2019

Self Care & Self Love

Good morning spoonies and non spoonies ! Let’s talk of ways of coping and taking care of yourself in a positive way ... you know as well as I that if you are in 24/7 pain , socialising is no longer an option ( at least for me ) , so how have I coped with feeling less isolated from the world ? I have made some meaningful friendships on social media , fellow chronic illness fighters , and other ladies that you know they just get you ...... We support each other , we are there for each other on sleepless nights and on very low days ... and of course Mother ( she is my rock , my punching bag when I have just had enough.. she is my everything and I’m so very blessed to have her ) . I try to support people that I know are going through a tough time , I listen .... sometimes all we need is someone to listen . This is what I do to feel less isolated and feel that I can still make a difference.

Self love and Self Care πŸ’–: Now I am good at this !!!!  If you are on 20 meds plus a day plus going through the menopause... well you know that your skin and appearance can be affected😬, especially dehydration, your face may look tired and less plump , your hands and feet are showing signs of the water retention , washing your hair can become a problem ( unless you have someone helping you or you can go to have your hair done every week , unfortunately this is not my case πŸ˜’). Showers and Baths : well showers aren’t a problem you may need a stool or chair that you can purchase from care shops , baths ............. 🀦‍♀️🀦‍♀️🀦‍♀️ I will never attempt to have a bath again after I got stuck in the bath and had to call my 77 year old mother to lift me out .. I can’t tell you the embarrassment so much so that I was in tears 😭 from being hysterical as I felt trapped and laughing tears because of the image of what I was looking wasn’t a pretty sight , poor mother had to have 2 weeks rest after having ousted me up from the bath 😳😳😳.

What products are really helpful and work ( I am not advertising or selling any of the products mentioned )

Face : A Rose water tonic spritz is a must have ! It is anti inflammatory, it’s soothing , when you are in pain or have hot flushes this is the one to use . My favourite one is Mario Badescu Rose water .
A good face serum is a must , I have 3 that I use :
1-Niacinamide Serum by Garden of Wisdom
2-Neurophroline Serum by Garden of Wisdom
3-Hyaluronic Acid Serum - Vegetarian by Garden of Wisdom

Moisturiser for face I am reviewing a few and I will let you know which is the winner ( of course I am a woman in my early 50’s so it is an anti wrinkle one for me πŸ™‚)

For your precious body I think you can’t go wrong with Bio Oil ! I also Use Arnica oil for pain ... I use a very strong one in fact it is actually produced for horses aching muscles 🐎 πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚but it is ok for humans too, I buy this from Amazon .

Water Retention: Ginger oil this is really good and really helps , of course I didn’t mention the one thing you must drink every day , at least 2 and a half litres of WATER πŸ’§!

I do also suffer from depression, panic attacks and anxiety.... how do I cope with these ...... well I don’t πŸ˜‚ , but a good sense of humour helps ! I also use CBD OIL , and essential oils .... and of course my Duloxetine !!

Remember to never give up and that YOU ARE ENOUGH! M x



  1. Have you tried frankincense and rose essential oils (EO’s for short) in skincare routine, amazing stuff. I also use EO’s to help with my pain relief & I have to say I rate it higher than pain relief gels you can buy over the counter, TBH it does have a high smell value, but if you’re staying at home who cares?
    Probably, like a lot of others, I use heat pads, ice packs occasionally, over the counter pain relief etc.
    Has anyone linked any dietary triggers? I’m wondering about that.
    I haven’t been diagnosed with fibromyalgia or anything else other than osteoarthritis but I do have many of the symptoms including a lot of the sore points but my GP isn’t the kind to agree to a diagnosis of Fibromyalgia! Instead he tells me it’s my age, menopause, viral infection etc and this has been for the last 15plus years πŸ˜‚
    Great that you are doing this blog Mandy πŸ’•

    1. Hi Suzie apologies for the lateness in replying, had a tough few days , this body of mine really loves to play tricks on me 😏. Funnily enough I do use Frankincense and other essential oils in my skincare routine , they are fantastic! . I also use pure ginger oil for water retention on parts of my body , especially ankles and calves . No diet hasn’t been linked but what has been linked is a car accident I had at 22 years of age on my wedding day in Southern Italy , my then sister in law was really badly hurt , I nearly had a stroke my blood pressure went though the roof and developed chronic high blood pressure . I would definitely push to see a good rheumatologist that has experience in fibromyalgia. Like you I’m going through the dreaded menopause but it’s totally different. Please keep in touch and let me know how you get on . In the mean time sending you light and love πŸ’– keep strong 😘 . M x